hi everyone a bit of a random one but i just can’t seem to settle my mind. i work in a nursery and this afternoon there was myself and another staff member in the room she went to the kitchen and i’m sure she came back into the room so i went to get some paint and when i came back into the room the staff member said to me “did you take all of those children with you to get the paint” i said “no i got it when you came back into the room” she said she didn’t see me leave to get it but im sure she was in the room when i went i know i wouldn’t have left the room it she wasn’t there. im just overthinking it so much!

I am sure you looked for her to come back to get the paint. If she wanted to leave the room again after coming back, she should have looked for you. She didn't announce she was leaving the room, so you didn't either. I would let it go unless she makes a big deal about it again the next day or this week. If so, just calmly explain that you never announced leaving rooms before, but maybe you should start to make sure there is coverage for the kids. I know how it feels to let one thing ruin your day and you think about it all day and the next day. The feeling you are feeling will dwindle down in time and you won't feel as bad. Especially if she doesn't make it into a big thing again.

i’m very positive that she was back in the room when i left. she came back into the playroom and then i said “im going to get paint” and walked out the playroom i don’t know if she just didn’t hear me xx

I wouldn’t overthink it.

@Yi_eune im really overthinking it its had me worried all night xx

@Positive_Vib it’s not worth the energy. Try and find some peace in the chaos. Take it as a learning lesson where you can make changes that are within your own control. For example: make sure your colleagues are fully aware you’re leaving the room for next time. I’m not sure what the layout of the room is like but if there is a couple meters between the two of you then maybe she didn’t hear you. It’s possible. Don’t be so harsh on yourself, it’s happened and dwelling on it isn’t going to be helpful.

yes i’ve definitely took it as a learning curve and i’m going to be super cautious from now on. i have really bad anxiety which i don’t think helps and i always think of the worse outcome for example i could get sacked and be without a job. i need to try and think more positive xx

@Positive_Vib I fully understand! Are you getting any help for your anxiety? Or use any coping methods? You’re definitely not alone in this, but there are ways to make it easier on yourself. I hope you’re not too tired today, as I can imagine it must have taken a cut out of your sleep.

@Yi_eune no i’m not getting any help for my anxiety because im scared of opening up about things. i went to work today and nothing got mentioned but i still worry a little bit. im pretty sure she was in the room when i said where i was going because when i came back she was in the room and surely if i wasnt there when she came back she would have said something to me. we do have cctv in the rooms xx

@Positive_Vib you're opening up here which is a good first step so I'm sure you're capable of doing so to a professional