Hi girlies I need some help here. So basically I’ve been seeing someone since September and he told me he doesn’t like girls who go to raves, clubs, has male friends all of that. We’ve had multiple arguments over a rave I’ve been too and over male friends and some male coworkers (who are underage) that I follow. I unfollowed them and everything. Now the issue is that we’ve never made it official and I’ve had this guy friend since I was 10 we’ve never had feelings for eachother it’s just platonic. I was over at my man’s house and he found my guy friend in my TikTok dms for a streak and he told me to get out even though I have told him that his just a friend. Now we are trying again but he’s saying I’ve cheated and everything, I know I’m in the wrong but I’m trying to fix things with him and I’m not allowed over to his (I’m 19) because my mum isn’t happy and he doesn’t want to come over here or go out because of the situation. What do I do?

You should not be with this person. He’s trying to change who you are and he is controlling. And no, he’s not going to change. That’s not what love is. Break up and get out. You should get together with someone that you’re compatible with.

He sounds very controlling. It's ridiculous that you need to bend over backwards to appease him, and stopping contact with friends who have been in your life for years. There's probably a good reason your mom does not like him, she most likely is seeing signs 🚩🚩🚩 What's wrong with enjoying your life and having fun at a rave or having friends regardless of the fact that they may be men? Seems like he is projecting his own insecurities and doesn't trust you. You deserve better.

You’re also not in the wrong, the fact that you feel that way only proves how controlling and manipulative he is. You’re so young don’t let this guy ruin your perception of what a relationship and love is because this isn’t it

@xNymphadora @YI_euneI know this sounds bad but it’s his past that’s making things harder, his trust has been betrayed one to many times so I was the breaking point of everything because his past makes things difficult, he has improved since the day I met him he used to drink and smoke weed and get into fights all the time but his stopped/ slowed down on it a lot which I’m grateful for because he hasn’t been in fights and hasn’t been getting hurt, his changed so much since I met him. And with the whole rave thing it’s hard because clubbing and raves people like to get with eachother so his pov is that people will try get w me

@Lola128 sucks that he went through that but that is not an excuse. He should not have gotten into a relationship until he’s worked past that. If his past haunts him that much he should leave you alone and get therapy. You’re not there to fix or improve him when he takes away the things you love and does not respect or trust you. Because he doesn’t. He is trying to mold you and the fact you’re defending his actions and are feeling guilty over something that’s normal shows that he’s already got his flaws in you. I’m not joking when I say do yourself a favour and RUN far from him before it’s too late. You shouldn’t be in this situationship, that’s the better word for it, because this is not a relationship.

Claws* not flaws ^

🚮 bro literally TRASH. wtf. Yall aren’t even official!? GET OOOOUTTTT. HE IS MISTREATING YOU AND CONTROLLING YOU. That is NOT how love and affection feels. His past trauma shouldn’t affect you like this. He should figure that shit out on his own! That’s not your problem!! Get out ASAP. The fighting drinking and weed should’ve been the first red flag boo 😩 you are NOT in the wrong. HE IS. You’ve had multiple arguments and yall aren’t even together. Uh uh 🙅🏽‍♀️ gurl. Not okay.

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!🚩 he had no business being this controlling in a talking stage, and even if he was your boyfriend it still would be completely unacceptable. I would leave immediately