okay so i love my boyfriend he’s amazing and im 100% attracted to him. i love hugs and kisses from him and its very pleasurable to do it with him but, ive never felt the desire or desperation to do it that i’ve heard some girls talk about. when some people explain it they say that its an incredible experience and they itch to do it again, but i dont. is there something wrong with me? is it the birth control? why am i never horny?

also i can finish and then keep going after a couple of seconds going slow, some of my female friends say that they only finish once and it’s sort of making me scared that what i’ve been feeling isn’t actually an orgasm or smth? i’m not really sure to be honest 😭

some people just have a lower libido, nothing to worry about whatsoever. if you were like this before starting the pill then it’s not the birth control no.

& some people can finish more than once, some people can’t. everyone’s experience is different !!

okay thank you, the problem is i don’t know what i was like before the pill as i was put on the pill before ever having sex

you could always come off it at some point to see if it affects your libido, but honestly there’s no need to unless it’s actually bothering you or affecting you. coming off the pill might not even change that anyways, and then you would have to go through the whole adjustment phase again which honestly isn’t worth it for something that might not even change. if you’re just worried because you feel like no one’s similar, there’s so many people who are the same !!!! :)

thank you so so much!!!