How do you guys feel about your partners watching porn? And if you aren’t comfortable how did that conversation go about?

I don't have an issue with it, I watch porn to. Imo porn is a fantasy and its not up to me to control my partner's fantasies. If it was an ethical objection to porn that's a different story.

I don’t care, it’s not really any of my business

My issue with it mainly is insecurity which I have now communicated with him. We just moved in together so I feel a form of betrayal to know that he chose to watch porn and get off from that rather than initiating something with me. We have similar work schedules with the occasional 1 day difference off. So we spend all our time together and it hurts to know he finds the time to do that

I don’t have much issue with it. I watch it too and for me it’s like… sometimes I just want to masturbate too 🤣 I used to feel insecure about it but then I reframed it in my head. I felt like I was acting like a guy who feels intimidated by vibrators and such. It’s not a competition to me anymore! apples≠oranges. Again, if we’re speaking from an ethical standpoint I feel differently.

@harrystylesg right away I think you're going to have a problem if you guys are spending all your time together. People need privacy and alone time even time when you live together, and yes that includes time to masturbate and watch porn. You don't have exclusive rights to your partner's sexuality, it's okay and even healthy to have your own private relationship to your sexuality. I also don't think it's okay to ask our partners to stop doing something for no other reason than our insecurity. We have to take responsibility for our insecurities and working on them.

I don’t care if my bf does it. I masturbate every single day and I’d be a hypocrite to be upset if he watched porn or masturbated. You know the root cause of the issue, which is your insecurity. Now it’s time for YOU to work on it. It is not your partner’s responsibility to fix your insecurities.

When I need to bust a nut imma bust my nut 🤌🏾 All jokes aside—as @maeve_ said I won’t judge him for it since I be doing the same

personally, i find it disrespectful and actually ended my two year relationship over it last saturday. i think sex & lust should be confined within a relationship if you’re monogamous. i know a lot of people may think differently but idk, i’m the type of person to prioritise my partner when it comes to sex and if the same energy isn’t met, i leave. i’m against porn in general so 🤷🏻‍♀️ and for how the conversation went, i explained to him last summer that i’m uncomfortable with the idea of him lusting after other women when i’m not around. he agreed with me, swore on my life he wouldn’t do it again because of how damaging it was but 🤷🏻‍♀️ things go the way they’re meant to go unfortunately

If you’re looking for a partner that doesn’t watch porn that should be something yall agree on early on in the relationship. Not when you’re moving in together. It should be a value for both of you. Because if not you’ll just end up disappointed. You’re trying to have control over the situation and your boyfriend and that’s not okay. The only person you can control is yourself. You know it’s your insecurities getting in the way, so find a way to control that part of you. Work on that. Masturbating is so different from sex. It’s so much faster, easier, less work. Sometimes it’s just preferred and that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with casual masturbation.

I would not be okay with my partner watching porn ever!! I hate that it’s so normalized by society. I find it cheating and people say that it’s normal but when ur in a relationship you are supposed to be giving ur sexual energy to ur partner and porn causes a lot of issues for relationships and its lusting after other people, I say if you want to watch it then be single. I don’t have no issue with masturbation but I find the porn unnecessary and if you NEED it rather then ask ur partner or have basic self control then you are addicted.

Yall letting him lust for another girl? Crazy and weird

What’s really wild is lust & having fantasies are two different things @bakeadessert

@seechell he’s having fantasies that don’t involve you? Strange

If u have a partner why not just do them said fantasies with them instead of having to get off to another girl or boy ? You’re not making any sense

Seems you have the two words confused, Lust: Lust is a strong, often overwhelming desire for something, particularly sexual desire, but can also refer to an intense craving for other things like power, food, or even memories. It's a deeply felt want or craving, suggesting an almost uncontrollable urge Fantasy: Fantasy is a genre of speculative fiction that involves supernatural or magical elements, often including imaginary places and creatures If I have a fantasy of Luffy from One Piece having 7 d*cks and he f*cks me with each one until I can’t take anymore please explain how my man can do that? Or if said someone has a fantasy of getting derailed while flying on a flying Bison by Aang from Avatar the Last Airbender, how would you fulfill that fantasy? If a couple also has an extremely different work schedule do you expect them to always wait for one another to have s*x when they can just quickly get off to porn and go to bed? It’s not always about “lust” I think that’s why some of you guys don’t understand.

@seechell wonderful point that made me absolutely crack up lmao! I love you and your take on words lol

@seechell no it’s disgusting it’s also an industry that hurts women and this has been said time and time again Idk why we’re going backwards instead of forwards if u wanna get off ? Idea ? Think of your partner maybe? U know the person you’re supposed to like or idk? Have pics of each other and stop normalising getting off to strangers u don’t know ty

I see you still didn’t answer my questions so imma just take that as you didn’t understand my point, have a good day love 🫶🏾

@seechell no u just made a stupid point like u know people dress up as other people right when their partner wants that said fantasy but ok x

@maeve_ 😭🫶🏾 but for real tho I would love to take a ride on a flying Bison

@seechell girl 👀 the clouds and the stars above me? Sign me up

@Bakeadessert people are allowed to have a different view than you. Keep it respectful.

@Yi_eune I did I gave my view under a post that asked for it and I got replied to, I’m gonna reply back to what I think is right :)

^ To those against porn, do you also feel that way about romantic movies or books? Porn often is just used as additional stimulation. I personally never think about it so deep. Usually it's just thoughts like "oh that looks/sounds hot", but tbh my mind goes completely clear of any thoughts so I can just focus only on my own pleasure. After reaching orgasm I just go 'back to reality' and stop thinking about it. It's not that serious, it's just fulfilling a personal urge/need and a partner isn't supposed to be responsible for all of it. I agree with a lot of what was said above. I don't see anything wrong with porn. I understand that a lot of it is fake, and a lot has improved in the case of industry standard, work safety, etc. A lot of people who make such content do it because they WANT to. And heck, it is extremely profitable because guess what: sex sells! Finding it shameful is what makes the stigma worse, let people do what they want and support them in doing it a safe manner.

@xNymphadora comparing porn to romantic movies where you’re watching the movie for the movie being a good love story vs watching porn to get off Is a crazy comparison ?? Also context is important let’s say if I know my parter is watching said movie for sex than it’s disrespectful but if it’s for the purpose of the movie that’s ok I’m not crazy + porn has only one purpose and that’s to get off to videos of other people or things

Like I said idm if someone disagrees bc that’s their view this is just mine I agree with a boy earlier on this is my boundaries if he disagrees that’s okay we’re not right for each other I’m not a control freak luckily my bf agrees with me and if we want simulation when other is not there we have stuff of each other :)

How is that a crazy comparison? A huge majority of romance novels contain sex scenes and it is a very popular form of porn. It's just not a video or an image but you use imagination just like a lot of people would while masturbating especially if they are not watching porn. Movies may portray all sorts of relationships and some use it as a way to imagine their lives being different acting it out in their minds etc. kinda like how you think about porn, right? That it's all about "replacing" your partner. Porn is also created by people, making fantasies seem real. You could be "watching porn" if you had a wild enough of an imagination. Im sure that's what a lot of people did before television. And there's a lot less teen pregnancies than before, I wonder why!

@xNymphadora + porn is just porn tho it’s not got other parts like books and movies do 🤦🏻‍♀️and like I said if you’re buying a book for just sex than yes it’s wrong but i understand if other people don’t see it as wrong that’s fine it’s their relationship I gave my point that movies and books have other context and parts where porn is just sex Ty

@xNymphadora and yes I agree movies have sex but I’m pretty sure most people watch movies to actually watch yk the other parts that are a lot longer 😂if there’s people out there that watch loads of movies for just sex that’s called a porn addict 👍🏼links back to what is said context so important i watch a movie for the other parts

As mentioned above it’s unhealthy to spend all of your free time together so make sure you both have time to do hobbies, see friends/family & have alone time throughout the week too. As for a partner watching porn I wouldn’t care, as long as he’s not actually interacting with the person it’s just a means to get off

@bakeadessert I get that you’re trying to make a “point” or whatever you’re trying to do, but you should really be looking up some of the terminology you’re using cause that sure isn’t the definition of a porn addict ma’am.

@GyalPolicy honey if you’re fully only watching movies bc of sex that’s an addict like watching a whole ass movie to get off ? Crazy

This user clearly has some skewed opinions and that’s fine. No need to engage with them anymore. Their mind won’t be changed and the only thing that is affected is their relationship.

@maeve_ lmao what??? Defending porn this much is crazy

@bAkeadessert that’s unfortunately how it is nowadays. Porn has ruined society and has brainwashed people.

@GhostFaceLov 100% agree with u them using that it’s healthy when in every case it’s shown how unhealthy it is like lmao they making it normal to watch two people bang each other they don’t know 😂😂

I dont care. i watch it too. as long as it is ethical and consensual

Thank god my partner doesn't expect me to fulfill his every fantasy and for me to be ready for sex every time he's horny, that would be so annoying lol. Thank goodness we have porn for those times. I am not going to pressure my partner to fulfill a certain fantasy of mine if I can just watch a video of it.

@Bakeadessert you did not. You started calling people crazy, weird and strange within your first few sentences. That’s far from respectful. You can share your opinions without having to look down on others. Mutual respect is earned.