I’ve been friends with my guy friend for about ten years. He has a new girlfriend and she’s pretty toxic and what do I do about it? When I call him or text him she gets annoyed and says “why is she calling?”. I am respectful and the relationship is purely friendship at all times. He told her that I said I want to have dinner with them and she said she’ll pray about it. She then continues to tell him that since he doesn’t have a lot of friends, the devil might get him. She also questions him when he takes a nap after work and says why aren’t you doing something else. He’s all of a sudden going to church changing the way he dresses and working out more.I think she makes him feel like he’s not enough. But somehow he’s obsessed. He now talks to me less and it’s making me sad.

What? Girl respect their relationship you’re just his friend

@baKeadessert did you not read?

You can definitely have an honest conversation with him about how you're feeling sidelined as his friend. Try not to blame the gf as he might get defensive, but focus on your feelings about the friendship. When people are in toxic relationships unfortunately their toxic partner will try to isolate them and cut off their friends. So the best thing you can do is try to be supportive, bolster his self-esteem, and make it known that you are there for him especially if he decides to leave her. That said, you never have to subject yourself to bad treatment so if it does go in that direction make sure to have boundaries to protect yourself.

@Bakeadessert she just cares about her friend. It’s clearly stated it is purely friendship.

Yes but I feel like friends should mind their business u don’t know what actually is going on in the relationship and let’s be honest he’s not gonna listen to this friend as obvs he’s gonna prioritise his gf then this girl will loose her friendship full stop? So what’s the point

@Bakeadessert so friends shouldn't look out for friends in toxic relationships?

@aurielle think it’s a bit different when it comes from the opposite gender imo u have to be more careful I feel like she’s gonna push him away and they won’t be friends again