TW: mental health/bipolar. I need some help within myself, I’m trying to understand my ex boyfriend’s mental struggles. It all started when I met him, within the first month he said he was going to marry me and making all these grand plans for us. Making all these plans, being so happy with me. Sex drive was also through the roof, which was fine. A few months go by great. He did mushrooms one night and it was like a light switch the next morning. He was so down, so different. For a few months after that it was horrible, we didn’t have sex. He would never want to touch me. He explained and cried how much he hates himself. He kept telling me that he was going to get fired from his job- but I didn’t understand why. (He’s in the military and can get released for BPD). I think that he knew that he had it but didn’t want to get diagnosed. At that time, i did not know what BPD even is until now. Once he hit his lowest low, he broke up with me. A month and half later we decided to talk again and he took me out to dinner. He explained how much better he is, he very rapidly bought a motorcycle and then returned it, it’s like he was healed and was going to therapy. Sex drive was back, this was the first time in MONTHS he has come on to me. So I took him back. He went to therapy, and A month and half go by, the light has switched again. He stops going to therapy after a month. He tells me he feels like “a crazy person” and how he hates himself and his sex drive is gone completely. He has disgust in his eyes when I want to just give him a kiss. This time, I left him. It didn’t come to my mind until I explained to my friend and she mentioned this sounds like bipolar disorder. Any insight would be appreciated. I’m just trying to understand. Thank you

We really can't diagnose someone because we're not qualified professionals but regardless of whether it's bipolar disorder or not he definitely sounds like he struggles with his mental health. And he needs to work that out before being in a relationship. It's not fair to you to be taken on this emotional roller coaster and you were definitely right to end things.

It could potentially be bipolar disorder. That disorder is characterized by really high highs, and really low lows that are stages they go through. But, if I’m going to be honest though, it’s absolutely not your job nor problem to understand someone else’s mental health. It has nothing to do with you, nor can you necessarily solve it or help him in any way. You have to look out for you!! You don’t deserve to be drug through that treatment just because of his mental health struggles, as you could end up feeling guilty (because of his mental health) for making decisions that could potentially hurt him.

I think he should get diagnosed by a professional and don’t do mushrooms at all! They are very bad for people who have bpd and anger issues.

@GhostFaceLov Yes, they can intensify underlying mental health issues.