Hey, I have been struggling with something lately. My boyfriends libido is way lower that mine which idk what to do about because it is causing relationship issues. I really dont want to push him to do anything and im being really careful not to, but i feel like my sexual desires are not fulfilled. I asked him if he could do stuff to me instead of having intercourse, but he told me he doesnt feel comfortable doing that if he is not turned on. I need advice on this because i dont want to push him at all, but I also feel sad about our sexual life. Anyone has any ideas on this?

Do you masturbate and satisfy yourself sexually?

@aurielle yes but its not the same to me… Intimicy in a relationship means a lot to me and it makes me feel connected to him yk

What could he do for you that would help satisfy you? Without his actual involvement? I have a lower libido than my partner but sending cheeky and playful pictures and messages is a compromise we have whereby he will be satisfied and I won’t be pressured into things I don’t want to.

If you can’t find a compromise then you may need to accept the situation that you’re not sexually compatible. And while you don’t like to hear it: it is a reasonable reason to break up over.

@Macyboo_ are there other ways you can feel connected to him? You definitely don't want to feel sad about intimacy in your relationship but neither do you want to pressure him. I think it's something both partners have to work on and compromise on- perhaps you being accepting of other forms of intimacy and him figuring out what things you guys can do to turn him on and excite his sex drive. While yes there's a level of sexual compatibility you need to have, pretty much every couple experiences desire discrepancy at some point. If everyone broke up over it I doubt there would be any relationships left.