anyone else have strict parents that won’t let your partner spend the night or you spend the night at their place? almost in a 6 year long relationship and can not get out of this loophole 😭

When I was with my boyfriend of 3.5 years, we lived together in my parent’s home and we had separate rooms LOL. Lived like siblings across the hall from each other. We were 21 and 24

@sweetlily that’s awful 😭

@higirlhi_ yes, I have similar experience. My husband and I never spent the night at my parents’ home. My parents never talked about letting him stay to the point that I don’t even wanna ask. However, his parents are super open and letting us sleep together since the beginning of our relationship so that is a huge plus. And my parents don’t care if I sleep over at his house, only at their house.

Sadly it’s their house so you will have to obey their rules. However: depending on your age I don’t think they have the right to decide where you sleep. If you’re an adult you should probably set some boundaries and not let them control your life.

@Yi_eune yeah it makes sense and i understand but i can’t make decisions even outside of their home like deciding to spend the night at his place which his parents have mentioned multiple times. i am 22 and i’ve made it very clear that i am not someone who wants to get married any time soon so the fact of having these rules into my 30s drives me crazy lol sorry for the rant 😭

@higirlhi_ have you looked into moving out?

@Yi_eune not any time soon lol i live in canada so the cost of living is insane and i am graduating university this year so we definitely could not afford to move out so i am just gonna be stuck in a pickle

In my opinion, I don’t think ur parents have a right to not let you sleepover at ur bfs house because you wont be under THEIR roof… this sounds a little controlling.

I understand him not being able to stay at your parent’s house but they can’t control what you do outside of their home.

yas me too sis